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    Improving Your Relationship Using DISC Styles
    Improving Your Relationship Using DISC Styles
    Improving Your Relationship Using DISC Styles
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    Improving Your Relationship Using DISC Styles

    By Cornel Manu

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    The four DISC personality styles can be used to better understand your significant other and to create a better relationship for both of you.

    In this book, you will find all the information you need to identify which personality type is your lover and how you can better communicate with them. You will also learn which personality type you are.

    By using the tips found at each DISC style, you can build a more stable and beautiful relationship with your significant other, and you can also avoid unnecessary friction. Not big things are the most common reason for break-ups, it's the little things that add up.

    You will improve your relationship and your love life with this book! After reading it, you can finally realize why there was always little conflicts between you, even if you always had the best intentions at heart.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherCornel Manu
    Release dateJun 6, 2019
    ISBN9781393719373
    Improving Your Relationship Using DISC Styles
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    Cornel Manu

    Cornel Manu is the founder of the motivational blog AmbitionOasis but also the writer of the book Building The Life You Want - The Practical Guide to Achieve Anything. With a passion for excellence and helping people achieve their true potential, has dedicated his life learning and teaching everything about high achievement. He is also a writer with 10 years of experience, offering his ghostwriting and copywriting services at www.cornelmanu.com. With over 100 bestselling books ghostwritten for his clients, he's the go-to writer when you want a book that sells or a business that grows.

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      Improving Your Relationship Using DISC Styles - Cornel Manu

      Introduction

      This book has been written to help couples overcome their struggles by understanding their personality types. By using DISC styles, you can be in much better sync with your lover and communicate with them in a way they feel.

      The information you will find in here will also help you better understand yourself and your personality type. It’s ok that we are different, as people, and seeing the different ways people express themselves is a huge step towards having more harmony in our relationships.

      Not understanding each other and the unicity of our personality creates a lot of unnecessary friction, and that makes even the most living couples break up.

      Even if you never heard of DISC styles before, this book will provide everything you need to identify the 4 personality types and know how to interact with each one of them.

      If you find this book useful, make sure you recommend it to someone dear to you. It might help them more than you can imagine.

      To your success and abundance of love,

      Cornel Manu

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      Copyright © 2019 by Cornel-Ilie Manu

      Founder of AmbitionOasis.com

      Writer at CornelManu.com

      All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations with the author’s name in them.

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      Chapter One: It Is Not Your Fault, It Is Not Their Fault!

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      It’s Friday night and you are coming home from work. You are exhausted from all that work that stressed you out during the week and a strange feeling lies in your stomach. As you step closer to your door, a nervousness starts to settle in. You know you just had another fight your wife this morning and the thought of going over the same discussion again make you feel sick in your stomach.

      You still love her like nothing else in the world, but you remember the good times you used to have and how well you used to understand each other. You had a special chemistry that made it lovely to be around each other. What happened?

      It’s not like you don’t try your best to make it work and get over this argument, but each time you try it seems that the things escalate even further. The more you discuss about it, the more tension it creates. You also can’t leave it that way either, so what it is to do?

      What if I tell you it’s not your fault, neither the fault of your wife? Maybe you will be surprised and start to argue that she doesn’t understand how tired you are or what is your point of view in this, but listen. The problem is just the way you communicate. You see, every individual is unique and has his or her own way of expression that is given by their personality. It’s like we all speak a different language, a personality language. And if you don’t know the language of your significant other, your communication will greatly suffer.

      It’s like you are trying to talk to each other, but you are speaking Chinese and she is speaking Vietnamese. It will not go well.

      The personality we have makes the difference between a good relationship and a bad one. Exactly like magnets, the personalities that are different are attracted to each other, while those the same repel each other. Since you already had that special connection with your significant other, you are wondering what is happening. It’s not like you guys changed personalities all of the sudden.

      There are two things that usually come between two people that had a great connection. The first one is that we tend to not behave in line with our own personality when we are stressed, but we get tangled in bad feelings and automated reactions. The survival part of the brain starts to kick in, looking to fight back the threat. Of course, your lover is not a threat and that argument probably is something minor, but just like in a chemical reaction, you keep producing it by continuously reacting this way.

      The second problem is that we tend to forget about our lover’s personality. Just like you and me, we all have a different language and a unique way that we like to be treated. When someone feels like his or her personality is not taken into account anymore, they feel hurt and ignored. When someone gets hurt, the survival part of the brain starts to kick in and take charge, just like I mentioned in the first point. As you can see, a rollercoaster of tension, anger, and resentment can build up from forgetting our partner’s personality and not acting in line with our own in the first place.

      The good news is that it can be fixed, and this book will teach you how. We will discuss what each one of the DISC personality types is and how it’s best to communicate with a person according to their type. If you never heard of DISC personality types don't worry, we will get into details in the next chapter.

      I hopefully believe it’s already a relief for you to know that is nothing wrong with the chemistry between you and your lover, the point being that it just happened to find yourself into a reaction of stress, without having the awareness of your personality or of the other one. You can re-spark your marriage or your relationship like never before, and make it last a lifetime. Since you already had a passion and a chemistry, I can tell you it’s already there, dormant, waiting to be awakened.

      We all crave attention and love, we all walk around with a big sign on our forehead that reads I need love. Those reactions that you saw and made you think that your partner wants to hurt you, were just automated responses to being hurt. Pain and stress make us not be ourselves anymore. Just like in the Snicker’s commercial, where you are advised to eat something because you are not yourself when you are hungry, there should be also an ad telling us to calm down, because we are not ourselves when we are angry. Fun fact: Hunger makes you act strangely because it produces physical stress into your body. Survival instincts are again at the charge.

      I have news for you and it might shock you a bit. Your brain doesn’t care about your happiness. That big computer between your ears is the product of millions of years of evolution. All it was programmed to do, and it’s a master at doing it, it’s to keep you alive. That means we have deep instincts and reactions to situations that induce stress or fear. The so-called fight or flight response kicks in as soon as we interpret something as stressful.

      A situation that is stressful, no matter if we talk about worrying about our next exam or thinking about the validation of other people, start a cascade of stress hormones in our body. These hormones produce physical effects like breathing quickly, heart pounding or sweaty palms. Muscle tensions can also be a physical effect associated with stress.

      This combination of reactions produced under stress is also called the fight-or-flight response. The reason for this name is the fact that this automatic response was what enabled humans and other mammals to react quickly in situations that would threaten their life. This immediate and automatic response, that is a survival mechanism, can help someone fight the threat or flee to safety. Unfortunately, our mind can also overreact to stress factors that aren’t life-threatening, like work pressure, traffic jams or family difficulties.

      Scientists have found that chronic stress has serious long-term effects on our health. Over time, continuous activation of the stress response has a damaging effect on our body. Chronic stress contributes to the formation of artery-clogging deposits, high blood pressure, and also produce changes in our brain, making us more predisposed to addiction, depression, and anxiety. Chronic stress can also contribute to obesity, in a direct way (by making people eat more) or indirectly (by decreasing exercise and sleep).

      As you can see, the stress response is not only most of the time overreacting, but also it’s very harmful to our health as well. Stress can kill you or make you die much sooner, as many studies have revealed. What is interesting in all of this, is that what we interpret as stressful is subjective. Since we live in a society where our life isn’t threated anymore, most of the times we are stressed about things we choose to be stressed about, unconscious or not.

      Think about it this way. If you are sitting on the edge of an airplane, looking down at all the clouds and that huge distance between you and the ground, waiting to jump with a parachute for the first time, you most probably will be terrified. But if you are a professional that does it for a living and out of joy, you will be happy to be there. You can’t wait to jump out of that airplane and feel that sense of freedom again. How can the same situation produce different responses in different people? The answer is that stress is subjective.

      I believe you can find thousands of examples in your life where you are relaxed about something that stresses the life out of another person. The lack of stress comes

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