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    Get Over Divorce
    Get Over Divorce
    Get Over Divorce
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    Get Over Divorce

    By Adèle Théron

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    Divorce is one of the biggest challenges an adult will ever face.

    Many list Divorce as being more challenging, more stressful, and more traumatic to get through than even death (bereavement).

    As if that were not bad enough, the statistics tell us that the divorce rate in 2nd (67%), 3rd (73%) or later marriages gets higher.

    So clearly we are not learning the lessons. The reality is that we are apparently destined to make the same mistakes again and again.

    To help reverse that trend, the UK's leading Divorce and Trauma Recovery Coach Adèle Théron has released this book.

    It will give you The Ten Top Tips that you need to 'Get Through Divorce'.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAdèle Théron
    Release dateNov 10, 2018
    ISBN9781386867531
    Get Over Divorce
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      Get Over Divorce - Adèle Théron

      Top 10 Tips

      Dear Friend

      My name is Adele and I am a Divorce Angel. I help men and women walk through divorce trauma with power and decorum whilst keeping their heads held high. All of my clients essentially become experts in transforming their lives using the mess and trauma they find themselves in as a catalyst for any changes they want to bring change to their lives. Walking through this mess with power mostly involves adopting the right Divorce mindset.

      If you are honest with yourself, walking out of this with power and dignity is something you really want even if you have shoved this feeling down deep inside yourself. How do I know this? Because you would never have found this topic or searched on it otherwise! Men and women who care about adopting the right Divorce Etiquette are concerned with going about things in the right way and not screwing things up into the future.

      Following the right code of conduct is critical to ensure you separate yourself from the bitter and twisted version of yourself you could become if you allowed yourself to descend into self pity or loathing of your ex.

      The problem is you probably don’t know how to become the person you wish to become because your anger, panic or eratic emotions seem to short-circuit and sabotage your best efforts to walk out of this with your head held high. I know the feeling and have been there myself and I can assure you that hundreds before you have tackled the same challenge and won. By understanding your emotions better, you can work with them and tame them so that you decide how you will leave your divorce instead of your emotional state deciding for you.

      I am going to teach you 10 awesome things to do and think about to ensure you keep your cool throughout your divorce.

      These tips include how to handle your friends, family, your ex, your children, how to behave at work, how to handle your emotions and what to do the first year after your divorce. These tips are your lifeline and many before you carry this report around with them everywhere and have even highlighted the sections they felt were the most pertinent to them.You are not alone. Reach out and connect with one of the Divorce Angels from my team should you wish to review your situation or get help to move on.

      Email us on info@nakeddivorce.com.

      Hugs

      Adele

      Divorce - Tip 1

      Handle your friends and family with style

      Although your friends and family are an important part of your life, you may find that they’re ill equipped to support you through your loss. I found that even though my friends and family were well meaning, they didn’t know what to say to me and I often didn’t feel better around them.

      Before you chuck this well-meaning lot, remember that although they’re trying hard, they’re just not equipped or trained to help you. Society has conditioned them to deal with loss in a particular way. It’s not their fault. They love you very much and they hate to see you suffering. They’ll try to take the pain away and will do whatever they can in every moment to achieve this.

      Whenever I hung out my friends they would try to distract me from the pain I was feeling or unknowingly invalidate my emotions and my right to feel lousy. I’d leave feeling superficially better but also feeling as if I’d moved two steps backwards. I soon realised that I’d have to get divorce support elsewhere.

      Bear these in mind about some of your friends and family (you’ll probably recognise some of the points below.)

      They may say weird or inappropriate things

      We’ve all been there; the awkward moment where you say something you wish you didn’t say. Family and friends often succumb to some old clichés in their struggle to try and make things better. They are all attempts to move you out of your emotional state but these statements are often damaging to your overall healing.

      Common phrases my clients have heard include:

      Thank goodness this happened before you had children.

      God will never give you more than you can handle.

      There are lots of fish in the sea.

      There’s someone special out there for you.

      It’s better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.

      Be grateful you were once married and knew love.

      Now you are free to relive your teenage dreams of being single.

      These are awful platitudes designed to make you feel better. But they don’t!

      You cannot fix matters of the heart with intellectualisations of the mind. These statements do not encourage your healing.

      They have no idea what to say, so sometimes they change the subject

      When I was young I attended my friend’s mum’s funeral. I felt so awkward. I was standing next to my friend and her face was a picture of despair and grief. We’d been playing dolls a week earlier and now I had no idea what to say. I stared at my shoes. I couldn’t wait to get out of the church and away from the coffin and her pain. I looked at her and cracked a joke, trying to

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