A daringly original memoir that blends humor, heartbreak, and healing, exploring the intersections of queer identity, dating, trauma, and the mythopoetic. With a narrative voice that’s both poignant and laugh-out-loud funny, this is a story for anyone who’s ever sought to reconcile the many parts of themselves while navigating the complexities of looking for love and sex.

Pre-Publication Reviews:

"Some memoirs are compelling because of the writer’s absorbing story and unique writing style. In others you learn intriguing things about a life that is quite different from yours. With still others, the writer offers a courageous and uncensored window into the way their internal family members interact and how those parts interface with their external world. In Kaye’s funny and poignant book, you get all those things and more!"
Dr. Richard Schwartz, PhD
Author of You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For and Internal Family Systems Therapy

"Eloquently written Bachelorx offers a desperately needed alternative to society’s pathology-focused view of the remarkable human ability to survive and heal. Funny, insightful, inclusive, heartbreaking and hopeful, Bachelorx is easily the most important book I’ve read this year."
Charity Feb
Creator of The Disappeared, a photo essay

"Bachelorx is a remarkable and beautiful book. The protagonist, Orpheus — nonbinary, plural, fiercely loyal to their friends, their integrity, and most of all, to their inner community — is newly single and hitting the apps for the first time, navigating the contemporary queer dating landscape with humor, intelligence, a keen eye for irony. When they inevitably meet their Eurydice, Orpheus charts a path back from the underworld of obsessive love. Groundbreaking and relatable, funny and sexy, compassionate and wise, this memoir has rare power and the kind of narrative momentum that keeps you up reading into the night.”
Rachel Swift
Freelance journalist at The Providence Eye and Chicago’s Newcity Magazine, author of naked and stunned at the end of the world, a newsletter exploring chronic illness and culture.

A sixty-something sober nonbinary social justice artist goes online dating, after leaving a 35-year nearly sexless marriage? And recounts it as a story told by the different parts of the self? Skylar Lyralen Kaye, an award-winning writer, weaves tangled tales of attraction, disappointment - and, of course sexual desire. We get to meet the protagonist’s sub-personalities as well as a hilarious set of unsuitable dates. A theme that will chime for many is how the generation gap between older lesbians (“don’t call me queer!”) and younger gender-fluid folk makes for a difficult later-life dating life for those of us who feel more at home with the language and inclusivity (trans-, neurodiversity). When “stigma and shame, pathology and masking” are the sea many older queers swim in, what can a nonbinary paddleboarder like Skye (Orpheus) do to find a healthy erotic love and affection? This books tells the stories - Hot stuff, tough stuff, fun stuff: it’s all here.
Dr Caroline Osella
The Rewilded Anthropologist,
on the run after 25 years at University of London

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