About the author

Ing Venning

I’m an outsider. <br><br>Have been my whole life. I’m pagan, pansexual, polyamorous, gifted, mentally ill, neo-socialist, vegetarian, feminist… in short, often not sure if I’m even human. I know what it feels like to be excluded and discriminated against and hated. I know that it feels powerful and hopeful… and, much of the time, awful. <br><br>I write for outsiders. <br><br>It might seem a contradiction. After all, we’re taught that outsiders are those who favor individuality over conformity – and that’s the way of it most of the time. But not always. <br><br> I know what it feels like to meet that one-in-a-thousand (or more) person that <em>gets</em> me. When I meet someone like that, I’m filled with joy – and relief – to be just a little less alone. To be an outside insider once in a while. <br><br>I’ve written a few books, and I’m going to publish them soon. So I’ve really been thinking about who I’ve been writing for, who I’ll connect with, who is my <em>tribe</em>. They’re the other outsiders. I want us to <em>connect</em>, to understand that we don’t have to be alone in our differences. To be outside insiders together. <br><br>But, of course, that makes me think about the ones I call the inside outsiders. You know the ones I mean. The fundamentalist Christians, the white supremacists, the homophobes who insist that <em>they’re</em> the ones on the outside, the ones that no one understands… usually in large groups of like-minded individuals. They pretend they aren’t mainstream in the most mainstream of ways. <br><br>Well, you know what? I write for them, too. <br><br>Because, every once in a while, they get stuck in the minority. Every once in a while, they get a taste of what it’s like to be despised and uncomfortable. And, every once in a while, they like it. They like that powerful feeling of not giving in to everyone – even if they do it from the inside out instead of the true outside. <br><br> I write for them, too, because the one thing that unites us is that we’ve <em>all </em>been outsiders at some point. Whether it’s almost every day of our lives (except when we can connect with those rare individuals who get us) or a few seconds in a lifetime. We’ve all been on the outside, and we all <em>need </em>to be on the outside, for our own good – and for the good of our world. <br><br>I might despise their intolerant ideals, but I don’t hold the inside outsiders in contempt anymore, even if they hate me (and they do). Because now I recognize that we all yearn to be different but connected. <br><br>I write for the freaks who wear it proudly every day – and the freaks buried deep and scratching at the soil. <br><br>For individuals and groups. For insider outsiders and outside insiders. <br><br> I write for outsiders. Which means… <br><br>I write for everyone. <br>